Keep up new trends and forgo the Traditional way??
traditions changes with time. some groups may see the Pelamin as a neccesity (die die must have!) and some dont (like my family:) the old dais are retro fashion now i think. now it tends to be very simple, zen like i think. no ornaments.
Even the way u speak to ur lover changes =)
when u talk to ur lover u dont say something like this anymore:
Wahai kekasih ku!
Ya kanda?
Kanda ingin mengucapkan sesuatu padamu, kekasihku yang jelita.
Apa dia, kandaku yang setia?
Kanda cinta padamu.
i guess u will most like say ur love in English?
oh and congrtulations! (for ur upcoming wedding)
Marriage is something that is sacred. The intention is very important. The ceremeny, what is the objective ? You need to ask yourselves & at least your parents (whom you should be grateful for bringing you into this world) and weigh it aginst the Islamic values.
As long as you can meet the objectives that you set yourself to achive then you are fine. As for my wedding, we sat down with both our parents and listened to their wished first. Then we went about achieving those objectives withe the limited budget that we had. Surprisingly, those that were not within our budget got done through sponsorship, well wishers etc... this is the blessing of Allah s.w.t. Once you make your intentions clear, leave it to Allah to steer you. Insya Allah all will be well.
Oh well. Even if stick to 'traditional ways', some might still not agree to the traditional ways. For eg. some ppl say adat 'tepong tawar' is from hindu influence and shldnt be followed.
This cannot, that cannot, this haram, that haram, everything also cannot. Tradition cannot, because it's against the religion islam. So might as well have some changes eg. follow the modern trend, right?
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Nowadays, every service providers keep updating themselves until forgetting the real traditional way. From pelamin to deco to mak andams and even the rules & regulations way of malay wedding...
Luckily the food does not change but some how some caterers do change due to "following the trends".
if u were to look at the old magazines... the beautiful costumes that make a women beautiful and very "angel"... now?? bare bodies here n there etc... where is the tradition? the dais... padded wall?? theres the old ones gone to? haiz a lot have changed...
i still love the olden days when my sis got married... now mine (coming soon) is kind of bochap...
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