necessity for us to hold a wedding ceremony?
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12/11/2007 5:26:08 PMIt depends on the conservativeness of the culture you're in. Traditionalists vs Modern .
Islam does not allow exaggeration of a wedding ceremony, (unfortunately,sadly, today it already is).
The real reason of the wedding ceremony is to promote closeness between two sides of family (yours and the groom).. Muslim called it siraturrahim. Furthermore it makes your wedding official ( so means people know your marriage is a fact and not some rumors or hearsay). It also eliminates unnecessary negative gossips or speculations on your marriage, you know what i mean :)
Islam promote relationship bonding between families, friends, neighbour,s be it muslim or non-muslims alike. A simple ceremony like buffet is even ok, the rest is optional :)
So an advise is to take the ceremony positively. Don't overspend, cause it's illogical and ridiculous in modern context. About the dragging of ceremony, the nikah or marriage solemnation is important a.k.a ROMM, so the ceremony is subjective to your capacity to accomodate. Do plan your marriage to your capacity in your budget/savings, marriage is a long term planning you know, not some 'ending with a happy ever after' ceremony :) .
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15/11/2007 1:35:10 PMNot necessarily we need to hold a wedding ceremony to promote closeness between two sides of family, am I right to say this? But you do have a point though.
Anyway, it seems to me that nowadays people would like to have it in the simplest way where pssible. But parents at times are in the way of their plans where they want/wish to hold a wedding ceremony. If we do not hold a ceremony, but a simple buffet like you said, or maybe a "kenduri", is it a right & wise decision? We can still invitie families for the function right?
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2/12/2007 10:14:44 PMWhat most important is AKAD NIKAH......in islam we were told not to waste if can afford it
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3/12/2007 4:45:46 PMMy sister is going to get married next year and she only wants akad nikah..and she felt there's no need for wedding ceremony. I respect for her decision and I also think that is such a wasteful to hold wedding ceremony. I rather keep the money for necessity after the marriage. I don't want to judge people who have wedding ceremony because I don't know what is their real intention. It is up for us to decide wisely if we want to hold the wedding ceremony or not.
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28/01/2008 5:01:53 PMTotally agree with Intuitive. I spent a bomb on my wedding. On hindsight, I should have held a simple one and used the balance for necessities after the wedding. and believe you me, there are many necessities once you form a family.
When my wife gave birth, there was no time for us to leave the house even for a moment! We did all our shopping online via cold storage's website & had to eat tingkat food for six months which we found on www.cateringonline.sg.
However, if we had not spent so much on our wedding, that money could have been used to hire a helper so that we could have some rest.
Small weddings can still be dignified and enjoyed by all.
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Is it a necessity for us to hold a wedding ceremony?
What is the purpose of having one apart from the "ONCE IN A LIFETIME" thingy?
Do people have it like 2 years down the road after their marriage?
Are people mostly being forced/pressurised by parents to hold one ceremony?
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