define a succssful husband

What is the role of the husband in a marriage and what makes a successful husband?

worth
50 pts

rookie
0
votes
Plus Minus
8/01/2007 2:16:47 PM
 Close X 
Get your friends to reply to this Question.
Email it to them!
Your Name:
Friend's Email(s):
Your Message:
  Send
* Question won't be sent from your address. Friend's emails not saved or spammed.



rookie
0
votes
Plus Minus
31/01/2007 11:18:42 AM

That's a great question. Well, in this day and age, it's not as black and white as it used to be. Especially if a man has a working wife in the work force. In the past, a husband's role is to be the main breadwinner in the family and take care of his wife who stays at home, cooking and cleaning for him.

Nowadays, it'a shared responsibility, a husband should be mindful of the fact that a woman is very much capable of earning a living too. But especially if she is contributing to her family's income.

It's also just as important for the woman to recognise what her husband does for the family. Three of the most valuable things a husband can give to a wife are love, respect and attention. These things are what women find very assuring when they receive it. It is important and helps built trust for her, from him.

A good woman also helps build a great man and therefore, a good and successful husband. As the saying goes, behind every successful man, there is a woman.


rookie
0
votes
Plus Minus
1/02/2007 11:51:12 PM

i agree with foonosh. sociologists see men now as being displaced and confused of their role as a husband and father. we grew up watching how the older generations work and we internalize the values and the way of life that was in the past. shared responsibility was just an urban legend in the past and which something men laughed abt during their coffee break chats. but with the changing times, shared responsibility is a common term to be used in almost every household. and its true that behind every successful man, there is a woman. while behind every successful woman, there is a man insecure of his place and manhood.


rookie
0
votes
Plus Minus
27/02/2007 5:40:34 PM

...but ummmm...

why does anyone need to be 'behind' anyone?


well.. i'd think men sort of expect to be confused about role they play considering they too were confused about the apparent power they think they hold in family units...

i mean.. did you really think that a fragmented society has come about because men were 'sure' of their percieved authority?

i don't mean to step on any toes.. but changing times doesnt neccessarily point to an improvment for women.

let alone what role men are supposed to play.


rookie
0
votes
Plus Minus
9/03/2007 12:00:36 PM

reference from:
http://www.drphil.com/articles...
------------------------------------------------

The Role of the Man in the Family

According to Dr. Phil, if men want to be successful in their marriage and family life, they have to change and broaden their definition of what it means to be successful as a man. Being a good provider, protector, leader and teacher is a privilege that comes with responsibilities that many men aren't aware of.

A Provider:
Most men believe that being a good provider means supporting a family financially. It means much more than that. A man should also contribute to the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well-being of his family. In order to do this, he must recognize that there are other currencies, in addition to money, that need to be provided.

A Protector:
This means more than beating up the guy next door if he insults your wife. It means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as your children's. It can also mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that you and your family value.

A Leader:
Instead of waiting for your wife to take the initiative when you are having problems, take the lead. Get in the game and create what you want in your family instead of whining about your family situation. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership. It's a 100/100 partnership. That means you give 100 percent. And remember, you get what you give.

A Teacher:
What are you teaching those around you — especially your children — with your behavior? It's important to provide a good example for your children, loved ones and community with both words and deeds. Set high standards and teach by doing.


fresh
0
votes
Plus Minus
8/08/2007 8:05:25 AM

The man is supposed to be the head of the family & needs to provide for the family. Just remember that you will have to answer to Allah for all the things that you have done & not done for the family in the Herefater. Knowing this, you want to make sure that you try your level best to give as much as you possibly can within your means, insya Allah.


ASK YOUR OWN Questions !Can't find what you're looking for?
Post a Reply
Lets have your excellent reply to the question. In English and free of typos till we can spellcheck it for you please :)




Dads and Husbands

More NEW Questions »

ASK
questions

REPLY
to questions

+ x
 
 
New Question

New Question

Where Singapore Muslim community think share help Start Now

 Ask | Reply
fresh

Fariz
3218 pts
1st Rank

  more rankings


Night Cycling

Al-Mukminin Mosque is organizing a night cycling event for youth from East Coast Park to Al-Mukmin Mosque 9 to 10 February from 9:30pm(Sat) to 8.00 am(Sun). Hurry! The registration ends this 4th of February. For more information check out the Mukminin website.