Motivation

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sultana
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20/08/2007 3:06:34 PM

I remembered myself as a child studying for my PSLE, i wasn't interested in it at all. First of all i reckon motivation is a recipe for disaster since it's short lived. The so call 'motivation' only works when your child have a set intention placed in the future, instead of the present. Personally when i was that age, studying for my PSLE doesn't make any sense to me. As a child at that age, i couldn't grasps the importance of that and it's consequences. Even as an adult, motivation doesn't work. i.e many people sign up for 1yr gym membership and clearly was extremely motivated in the 1st month but as soon as motivation dies, they just end up meeting gym membership payments for the next 11 months.

to get what you want in any situation three thing to remember:-

1) marking out dates
2) celebrations for each and every dates marked out.
3) Honour your word. ( because you say you will do no matter what)

I don't think a child would practice to honour their word but this will be the ground rules for anything to happen. You will need to support them in this area and remind them time again if they forget. You will also need to do the same if you are setting up this method to keep following up with their progress and your promises.

1)

I suggest working out from the future to present. With your child, take a calender and mark out PSLE day and celebration day after PSLE is over. in order to get to the point where your child is ready to sit for the exam, you will need to mark out days and chapters that needed to be covered.

eg PSLE day is on the 5th december. so mark out on nov 29 all chapters covered and ready to go. then 15 nov last chapter of all subjects covered, 1nov chapter 16-18 science covered...
something like that. work your way from the future to present.

2)

Here's the thing which makes it really exciting. HAVE CELEBRATIONS for each and every accomplishment. If you marked date 1st,15 and 29th nov, for some tasks and chapter to be completed, and if it's finished, have a celebration which your child can enjoy and the family too. So if you marked out each fortnight to have certain goals met, tasks finished...have celebrations if they are done.

Do this calender mapping out thing with your child so they are aware of it and have a say in it. mark out the tasks dates and celebration date bold and clear. Place the calender in a central place where everyone can see it.
And let family members knows of what you and your child has intended to do and encourage your child to share his intentions with his friends and family members.

Now what kinda celebration is really up to you. But i'm sure your child would have some ideas on what he/ she would like to have happen which is within boundary. It doesn't have to be something costly, can be some incentive, like 1/2 hr of extra play time or having dinner outside with the whole family. Just something which inspires your child.

I do this for myself as an adult now and it is very fun and rewarding. It give me the ability to make myself known that i have accomplish some tasks and i can acknowledge myself. You can apply this to anything anywhere, your work, family or if you are a boss in your company.

there are other motivation techniques for your child which you can have a look as well. maybe in cooperate with other kinda things which you might have knowledge of, Inshallah.


The Secret to motivating your child:
http://www.motivation123.com/c...

How to teach your kids good habits:
http://zenhabits.net/2007/03/h.../

How not to talk to your child Part 2:
http://www.pobronson.com/blog/...