Q. The Mutaa marriage

Salamaleikum....

I am a Christian (protestant) by faith and I have been engaged close to a year now with a born Muslim (he is Arab),but from what I know, it isn't proper because none of our families knew about it.We have been living together for a year now as well, and everytime I ask him whether if we will marry or not, he gives vague answers-as there are many points to consider-
1.some say it's allowed for muslim men to marry christian& jewish womenand they don't have to convert.but then it will be a mess from the child-raising and inheritance point of view.it's very conflicting.

2.he suggested a mutaa-i understand it is a temporary marriage by definition.we already are doing something haram, living together,that I know.It sounds like this set-up is an excuse, and i wonder if it's being done here in Singapore.I don't want a temporary marriage,but as both our parents will never agree to it-mine, coz they don't want me to convert (although I am willing), and his parents, coz they are viewing it that I am converting merely for the purpose of marriage.What should I do? It's like I'm damned if I do or if I don't!

3.I suggested a civil ceremony, to keep peace and strike a balance between everything.In this way, no need for a dowry,no need for religious ceremonies,and everything that makes marrying such a headache.seeing if we both invite our parents,none will come, what else is there left for us to do? we love each other very much.we have been together for almost 2 years and it is a constant struggle to stay together.we started this relationship long distance, but despite that, we are still together.by the way, we are both of legal age.

Please help us.We both do love each other, and do not want to give up just because of religious issues.Him and me were never religious-he doesn't pray 5x a day, and it' very seldom he does-i even have to remind him to go pray.All of a sudden we both have to be " religious" and righteous because of marriage issues.I am a logical being, and religion just doesn't seem to make sense to me anymore.

500 points 1votes 29/06/2010 10:17:44 AM by AnaB rookie Post Reply Share