younger man loves an older woman
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28/09/2007 4:31:12 PMLove is a beutiful thing. Age should not be a barrier but should be taken into consideration. Once that has been done, go for it....challenges will always be there even for those who marry the people of the right age ...
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28/09/2007 5:28:46 PMYou got onto this question quite quickly Mehboob ;)
Im sure everyone will say that age isn't a barrier...it shouldn't be. But an interest of a 50 y/o and a 35 y/o is quite different. And for a guy..i think they will be very much in active mode wanting to do this and that and bunjee jumping..while 50 y/o (like my mum) would like to stay at home with her always learning about islam in preparation for the hereafter. And she was totally different when she was 35y/o. She was the adventurous bunjee jumping type ;).
Very much in love now does not equal to good marriage later on. Love isn't always what you only need coz in a marriage there are many issues that will pop up, to keep the connection and companionship going. i'm not saying it's not possible i'm sure a few have successfully done it. perhaps she is seeing this guy as someone mature, has ability to run the family and is responsible cares for her etc.....but what happens in a few years when she soon discovers that he is actually the opposite? Will she still accept him as a whole and perfect human being without any resentments?
sure she will say yes. There's no guarantee in live. My best advice to her is, chill for another 6 months. The general idea from experts is to get to know your spouse for at least 1yr ( so that you can see all the crappy stuff and the little annoying things) and then decide if that is what she wants to sign up to for her life.
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28/09/2007 11:03:56 PMoh this might be related as well. http://www.nasibriyanilounge.c...
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4/10/2007 7:15:05 AMlook upon our beloved prophet seerah..
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) married Saidatina Khadijah, who's much older than him.
It certainly shows no age barrier in marrying whom, as long as they keep the relationship 'halal' .
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6/10/2007 9:07:29 AMactually to say its somthing impossible but age isn't really a barrier but lf oppsite yes but simply other ppl around u will find it hav to accpent
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6/10/2007 5:26:02 PMIn my opinion it's alright although on the surface it does sometimes look a bit 'weird'. But age usually doesnt matter much as long as the love and respect is there, together with the necessary preparedness for marriage. (No point have a younger guy who is lazy and not interested in helping put money on the table).
Since we're on this topic, i'd like to express my view whereby i find it perturbing when sometimes (or rather, OFTEN) some people FREAK OUT when we mention 'older woman and younger guy'. But in contrast, people get EXCITED when the topic of 'muslim man has 4 wives'. I mean, Islam allows a muslim man to take in 4 wives; our Prophet did it. But in the history of islam there's ALSO the part about muslim man marrying OLDER woman; again the Prophet is also an example. So isnt it interesting how DIFFERENT people's attitude/response is towards the two (halal) issues????
Hmm but maybe that shld be a new questn altogether huh.....
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8/10/2007 1:12:44 AMMy personal opinion is she should consider accepting his marrage proposal. A spinster and had sacrified taking care aged parents and looking after her siblings until they have their own family, now alone, she deserved to be loved. Throughout our friendshlp, I never heard her complaining of her fate. Whereas the younger man after two failed marriages and disullisioned with life thought god had answer his prayer when he met this admirable woman. Anyway thanks for all the views and opinions, its an eye opener.
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8/10/2007 2:15:43 AM@ voeg..there's already a question on the site about the prophet and his more than 4 wives. ;)
link to Q. here:
http://www.nasibriyanilounge.c...
@ Mariah Kari--> Your question seemed to be a hot one. anyway, which answer will you pick as the choosen one?? :D
oh yes and for the rest...you can always vote for your favourite one and chuck in the '-' votes as well ;)
muaahh...
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8/10/2007 11:07:17 AMUnder different circumstances, Sultana's answer has a point there. I agree its best to give another 4 to 6 months to know each better and see whether they are compatible. If I have not met them I would also think that it is rather weird and unacceptable especially in a Muslim community. Anyway, she's wise enough to consult her brothers and sisters and take her time to decide, afterall if they are fated to each other, why think so much.
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13/05/2008 7:56:43 PMlove happens, let it. =)
i guess one of the main factors with regards to this is the age gap. but it all boils down to how much both are compatible with each other on an emotional level.
i had a few dates who were younger than me but turns out, i couldn't get used to their level of maturity which was unable to keep up with mine so, there.
but if things do go well, why not?
if they're happy with each other, why not? =)
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4/07/2008 3:48:46 AMI am also involved with a guy 15 years younger than me . He has also asked me to marry him . We both love each other and get on very well in all aspects . We have the same interests such as hiking , camping , fishing . I dont think my interest in that will change as I get older as I am very fond of natutre and i am very sporty as well . The age difference doesnt bother me , but at times I do wonder how other people see us . I have been told that I do look younger than my 42 and could easilyn go for 32 . But at the end of the day I am not 32 . lol My moral is good luck on finding love regardless of age as long as he has a drivers lisence so that he shouldnt be droppped by his dad or you have to drive him !!
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What do you think if a younger man in love with an older woman and wants to marry her. My close friend Kate is in her late 40's and undecided whether to accept his proposal because of the age difference. She's 15 years older than him and very much in love with. They met 6 months ago at friend's kenduri.
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