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8/03/2008 7:00:14 AMTaking into account the prophet's examples, he married women from a broad range of cultural backgrounds. (In fact, you too should consider variety!)
If you're a Muslimah on the other hand, you should marry only within your culture. Even the Quran generally reckons it's a good idea since women's minds are leaky vessels which seems to need constant re-filling.
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14/03/2008 1:19:01 PMpsychedelicmullah - What does "leaky vessels which need constant refilling" mean?
Well, for the man looking for a woman, the Prophet (pbuh) gave 4 criterias - wealth, lineage, beauty and religion. And the Prophet chose religion as the best standard for the man choosing a woman - that is insya Allah, by choosing religion, the man will find the woman more than sufficient.
As for the woman looking for a man, the Prophet (pbuh) said that the choice should be based on religion and character.
In both instances, people whose religious beliefs are firm and whose religious obligations are not neglected, make the best partners for each other.
So, I would say that for as long as you got your religion covered, culture is a second priority. Culture should never override religion.
But to answer your question proper, i believe that a union of two cultures, forms a bridge to mutual understanding and recognition of the values which are important to both sides. And this indeed is an exhortation of the Quran, where we are encouraged to get to know other peoples and races. Furthermore, the child that is born and raised within different cultures get to gain the best of both worlds, implicitly and explicitly. And on a grander scale, who can say that anything that promotes understanding is bad?
And on the same note, if marrying into the same culture allows for an easier assimilation into married life - i.e. you don't necessarily disagree/ argue over cultural issues, you are so called "on the same frequency" - then perhaps it is better to marry into the same culture.
no one opinion if you ask me. just depends on how the individual thinks. :)
Wassalam.
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20/03/2008 7:23:25 PMJust to add on a little...
I feel that to marry out of your race posed some great challenges.
The first would be an identity crisis. Since the other party have to convert to muslim, she/he faces an identity crisis. She might need some time to settle or adapt to the religion first. Then comes the culture & custom part, the born muslim will have to learn & adapt to her culture while she may take time to adapt to another culture. I believe the latter will need more support from loved ones as it is not an easy task.
However, if ALLAH will, everything will go on well, just let her take her time, don't pressurize her.
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13/05/2008 7:36:54 PMwhilst it might be easier, it might not necessarily be the best option.
love happens, let it.
coming from a chinese girl with a malay HTB. =D
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it is better to marry someone form the same cultural background?
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