My boyfriend and his parents are atheists. He says that he has started believing in God but refuses to follow islamic rules, although he has recited the shahadah. Is it legal to marry him according to the islamic shariah?
500 points 1votes 15/07/2009 3:01:39 PM by Dejected rookie Post Replyrecite the shahadah is a first step to being muslim. and next is to practice, one step at a time. prayers etc. not practicing it is as similar to being (infidel) kafir. logically, how do you start believe in God but refuse to practice what has been commanded? it's the same as every other religion.
in singapore context, if he truly becomes a muslim, there must be paper proof that he is so and his NRIC must reflect that. that is marriage in Islam in Singapore, which we've all come to accept.
And make sure that he converted not because of his love for you but for his ownself.
SO as you've put it, he has "started believe in God". As a friend, do inspire him to truly believe in God. Insyaallah you can do it.
Salaam,
Allow him for Islam to set in before marrying him. Usually, as I heard and listen to lectures, converts tend to turn off of the Islamic rules because the presentation of shariah tends to be a bit too "regimental", rather than discussion, reason and interpretive. Ask him to go to some good Islamic websites to get info and clarify some opinions he disagreed.
If he is a Muslim who commit to believing in Allah, then he is. The question should not be whether I could marry him, but rather if he is ready to marry and fulfill the role of a Muslim husband and person.Pray and strive for both to learn and understood the message and purpose of Islam, and NOT living to be someone who always carries a "weighing scale" and then try weighing someone else's "iman" and his "Islam". "So Remind, for of use is of reminder" (Sura Al Ala).
May Allah s.w.t rewards us of our patience and devotion. Salaam.
I agree with fariz replies.
One has to be able to fulfil his role as a muslim, as a muslim husband and in the future as a muslim father to your children.
Never marry a person based on love that u have on him and he has for you... but marry coz you both love God.
Don't be in a rush to get married. Learn Islam, embrace the beautiful religion first, alrite... only then, you'll find the light if this man can lead you to a beautiful marriage towards Allah's path.
Geting married is not a playing thing. There is a great 'hikmah' ( wisdom) behind why Allah has not allowed a Believeing Muslim woman not to marry a non muslim man. In a nutshell, i can assure you that you will have many conflicting values with him ( huge problems) in terms of your way of life from a day to day basis.
If he says the shadah just for the sake of you and not believeing in whatever he is saying, then he's not a Muslim. If he truly believes that Allah is his one and only god and Muhammed (s.w.s) is the Messanger of Allah, then he's Muslim Inshallah. ( those words are in the shadah)
It's not a matter of legal or not legal you need to be worried about. It's a matter of eternal hell or heaven you want to strive for. If you are the type who wants to enjoy your whole eternity with all your loved ones, then i believe you already know wht you need to do. If you know that this man is not muslim ( he doesn't believe in what he's reciting ) Please don't marry him, coz he'll be ur ticket to the hell fire.
Why is he rejecting the shariah if he believe in Islam? ( Islam means to submit oneself to be the SLAVE of Allah )
I hope you choose wisely. Choose the right partner to be your companion is vital to enjoy a happy fruitful marrige in this world and the hereafter.
Also im encouraging everyone here to watch "The Arrival" It's applicable to anyone of any believe to watch. I hope that your guy might reconsider his believed after watching this powerful documentry and for the rest of us to reconsider how we life our lives and change it for the better. Inshallah.
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