Q. Marriage with classmate - How w/o parents approval?

Hello people. I want to get married to my class mate..

We fell in love two years ago. Everything was fine till six months ago. His mother choose some other girl for him (knowing completely that both of us want to marry each other).

My parents after getting to know that his mother has turned against our relationship, also refused to show any support. My parents want me to get married to someone else now they are calling me back to my country and I don't want to go.
I want to get married to my class mate. Is there any way we can do Nikah here in Singapore.

I turned 22 years this May. He will turn 21 this Oct. Suggest something plz...

500 points 1votes 30/07/2009 6:48:07 PM by Komi rookie Post Reply
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Hmm,

I can't find a correct answer for your help. There are a few reasons why?

1. The reason why his parents did not like you?

2. What was his reaction to his parents on choosing his bride? Why didn't he say no, if he feels so ?

3.By the way, are both of you still studying or currently working?

This is more a matter of the people around you, and of the willingnes of heart. Be more examplary as a good Muslim and Muslimah, I am sure you could (God-willing) agreement from both sides of the party. However, if it's due to a racial or social preferences, then perhaps both of you should praying for the best and strive hard to get your future right in life from Islam., if you are serious for marriage.

Marriage is not a fairy tale a, boy-girl, partner commitment relationship. It is responsibility , sacrifice and appreciating the imperfections and gratitude one had towards family.



-1votes 6/08/2009 6:21:53 PM by Fariz whiz
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1. Its a personal question. She wants a girl who would bring in alot of dowry .


2. I think the answer is pretty clear ... Ofcourse he said NO ... otherwise how would we be thinking of getting married?

3. He graduated and I am still studying !

"Be more examplary as a good Muslim and Muslimah, I am sure you could (God-willing) agreement from both sides of the party."

What are u talkin abt ??? I am trying to do something halal. And for ur information marriage is allowed in Islam from the age of puberty.

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0votes 8/08/2009 4:30:54 AM by Komi rookie

a marriage can take place, as long as the girl has her wali's consent. the guy just need 2 witnesses and you (the girl) another 2 witnesses. nikah will be accepted, just register at ROMM. (i dunno if you can use wali hakim since (from what i understand) your parents are not in Singapore)

Insya'Allah, if both of you are really commited and serious, both parents will consent at later stage, but the challenges in such acts are very great. I have been through it myself once, and it is really hard. Eventually he made a grave mistake and we ended up divorced after 3yrs.

If you think you are ready, financially and emotionally to face this together, then do go ahead.

0votes 11/11/2010 10:15:00 AM by junifa fresh Accepted Reply

Please do not fight unnesessarily at this website.

Everyone has their right to share whatever comments they do have . However, pls do not raise any tension in this website should you not agree with whatever statement that people had said.

This is a website for everyone to share their thoughts and ideas , and there should be a mutual respect always.

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0votes 1/11/2011 7:52:36 AM by fifybaby rookie

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