looking for a gal desperately...to get married. But why am i not successful?
many of my friends have told me to play the seduction game but it never works for me.
I tried all those things...i even went to a gal openly and tell her i want to marry her and she turned me down. All the gals say that they like me, just as a friend!! "Oh, but i like you as a friend..or you're such a good friend to me" Its so frustrating. A man has his need and get married you know. What am i suppose to do? why are the girls not into me??
Help...!!!!
hehehe...Mousyteeth.. you sound so desperate.
A woman dont want a desperate man!
But you sure have guts..that is good sign.
The best way is be yourself.
Don't give up easily on The woman you think also enjoy your presence. It has to be reciprocal....hehehe else it is waste of time and gets both irritated.
Keep buying her errr..Nasi Briyani maybe or something like that.. presents like red rose (1 rose = 'you are one and only'). When in conversation, stop that 'I this, I that, I, I, I. On the contrary, make her inquisitive so that she wants to know more from you. Observe what the Lady likes....
If really desperate..errr.. ask your parents for recommendation??? hehehe
ok then good luck..
yea..good tip about the I, I, I 'saykool'. That is definitely a downer when i meet guys like that.
but what i'll like to say is that i cheer for your openness...however i'm being straight with you from another perspective.
I think you are just being lazy and giving yourself excuses to really deal with the issue. By saying i tried this and that, but the gals are saying this and that. It sounded like me some time back when i use to point my fingers to everyone for my un-fulfilling life rather than myself.
You are infect playing the victim role coz that makes yourself looks good.
i think a man who is whiny and hasn't step up to the reality of wht he is contributing to this effect hasn't discovered with who he really is.
in my opinion i think this is what people can see of you. And that is why they can't be more than just a friend to you. :)
no hurtful comments intended.
The more desparate you get, the further they will run from you. Ask only Allah sincerely and Allah will fullfill if it was meant to be. Insya Allah. Feel free to drop by our class every saturday on basic Islam at 455A, Changi Raod from 5pm to 7pm and maybe you will find your partner. Insya Allah.
0votes 17/07/2007 10:47:58 AM
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dun desperate leh u should part by part haa i copy my teacher's line and u can stay single that doesn't matter coz WOMAN ARE TROUBLE SOME! and u should be more handsome,and romantic dun be too open do get a hint of what thing ur wooing girl likes gift girl a surprise they sure like this or write something as a poem i gift u 1 poem haaa
Rose are red
Violent are blue
i don't noe u
But my love is true for u!
Sender:By ur True love
the girl u wan sure be shocked or happy! and shock she when she have read the letter shock she with a ring and flower (flower) not a must but if u really that desperate flower is much easier to ur chance of marrying
i sure u come up with some more sincerely, surly u achieve ur goal!
Someone's out there. keep looking brother.
If those women turned you down Allah probably has someone better for you.
=D
Just remember that if you cant find your wife in the world, you will find her in heaven. Maybe God is testing you, making you wait, or maybe he has already fated it for you to become eternal bachelor on earth. Either way, you must be patient.
0votes 31/07/2007 1:45:31 AM by voeg freshwell, u r not destinated to get married yet,,,,, or i should say, ur timing not right?? how desperate r u?? or how longer can u afford not to wait?? men, however, till age of 35-40, still have gals want to marry.,!!
maybe u r still young, immature, not $$ stable....... tat wat gals look for, when u have everyting, by then u maybe married :)
Insha Allah you will meet you Mrs Right. Allah has kept someone for you out there but it's just not the time yet.
Be patient. Have faith.
I think Sultana brought up a valid point which kinda knocked some sense into me as well and I really appreciate that. Perhaps you were too caught up with trying to make yourself look good by playing the victim's role. Subconsciously, we let others victimize us.
Or perhaps, like what the rest have said, maybe we need to take a look at ourselves sometimes. Maybe He knows that we are not ready. We might think we are ready, but in reality, we are not. We have parents who still need us to take care of them. And yet here we are busy finding someone to take care of. This and many other issues which probably is just trying to tell us that we are definitely not ready.
Different people are surrounded by different circumstances. You just need to look around you and maybe you will find the answer as to why you are still single. Address those issues first and perhaps, He will be convinced that you are ready. And Insya Allah, things will fall in place...
But then again, we have to be prepared to face the fact that maybe we are fated to be single for the rest of our lives. There are so many reasons as to why we are single, which only HE knows. After all, only He knows what is best for you.
So I guess maybe you just need to look at yourself. Ask yourself if you are realistically ready to embark on that arduous journey.
Marriage is not just about that fluttering feeling you feel in the beginning. Its more than just that...
My 2 Cents worth... and if this reply triggered any hurtful feelings, Neofelis apologizes in advance...
Be Patient. Love is something that can't be rushed.Do something that you like to keep yourself busy from those thoughts. Never know you might bumped into each other.Coz love comes unknowingly...meantime just be yourself. There will be someone out there who will love you for you are. Take care..
0votes 12/09/2009 2:04:13 PM by 13Stars rookiejust be yourself,stay cool... nvr be too strait forward.. know the girl 1st.. know her likings.. win her heart.. den get on your knees and pop the question!! ok??
0votes 16/09/2009 8:04:17 PM by ellot rookieDo it the old fashion way. Get help from your parents, uncles, aunties, friends.
Also try Muslims matchmaking agencies.
In the meantime, build up your savings, prepare yourself to be a husband and a father, and lower your expectation if neccessary.
Worse come to worse, if you cannot get Singaporean women, try from different countries. They may be less choosy.
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