Q. Relationship with a muslim - how to get his attention?

i have fallen in love with a muslim man
i am alone and in times of trouble and he was there for me explaining his beliefs n fighting the urges to be together
im not muslim but christian
i have had intimate times with him.....but his beliefs are stronger than what i could ever give him
he makes me feel natural...he tells me no need to show off for me just be urself. he has become of my closest friends but i have fallen for him. i want to be with him every minute of my life but im afraid he has looked upon me as not as clean as i should be and i will never get a chance to show my true love for him my heart aches to be with him......he is my guiding light to what i need to become
how can a western woman like me grab the attention of a man like him ..... from what he has taught me im considering converting but i know that i must be with this man for the rest of my life...i must have him in my life
he has made a change in me that has gone beyond anything that i could imagine and i have never expeirenced before
please advise me on if i have an opportunity to win his heart

250 points 0votes 3/02/2008 6:31:16 PM by chicago rookie Post Reply
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dear chicago,

how long have you known him? hmm are you sure you love him.
Marriage is not just you and him, it involves your family and his as well. give yourself some time to think over it.

I hope you can make a trip down to the muslims convert association which is near the malay village. they offer basic islam lessons, try to know islam first before you convert.

it doesnt' matter whether you are local or foreign, as long as you are sincere. an opportunity to win his heart depends on whether he has feelings for you, if yes, that'll be great, be prepared if it is not.

You won't be lonely, you still have got people here in this lounge.

0votes 5/02/2008 2:49:32 AM by draling rookie Accepted Reply
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dear draling,

the most sincere reply. thank u.
i know he has feelings for me....i can feel him when hes not with me and he has hugged and kissed me and held my hand when alone and hes always there when i need him but we are so far apart religion wise and sometimes i feel that i am not worthy of such a man.
we talk for hours comparing notes on our religions and tells me i should have been muslim due to the similarities on our thoughts and how we present ourselves in life
hes not from my country my worry is that he will go back home without giving me an opportunity to show my love for him OR i show my love and its not equal and lose the freindship i have with him....i would rather have his close friendship than nothing at all and i have told him this
the one problem with this is that i am an affectionate woman that shows my love...to my loved ones especially my man/husband by grabbing a hand or a small kiss or a wrap arpund with the arms in public or private. he feels that he can not give me the affection that i deserve due to his religion...but doesnt want to lose the feeling that he gets from just being with me
my goal is to study the muslim ways before converting....and separate love from converting
everything happens for a reason...im not sure if he is in my life for the religious aspect or to be my partner in my life
i have never met a man like him before

0votes 5/02/2008 7:33:13 PM by chicago rookie
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ive known him for only 3 months
its within the last two weeks that we have been together but i have had feelings for him the fist time i met him.....i dont fall for people that quick....i dont pay attention to a person that soon .....but i did with him
and im not sure why...i worked with him briefly so i saw both sides of him business and personal level.... and im just in awwwww.

0votes 5/02/2008 7:40:46 PM by chicago rookie

dear chicago,

hope you work out well with him.

0votes 6/02/2008 3:28:16 AM by draling rookie

Allah will have mercy on you. Ask Him for guidance & He will show you the way. Become a Muslim as a first step & then leave Allah to guide you. Insya'Allah everything will be fine.

0votes 27/02/2008 4:15:44 AM

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