Should I trust a Nigerian guy?
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13/05/2008 2:41:56 PMI have lots of nigerian friends in singapore. I knew them for years. Yes they have a very bad impression.
Before that, let me ask you what is he doing? A student?
or working as a ...?
Most of the students who were from Nigeria is ok. Especially the muslims. But dont rush into it, get to know him first. They are mostly educated and rich.
The ones that i would not encourage you to be with are the footballers. Businessmen too. It depends but you see, most of them especially those staying near Mustafa Centre, are not educated. Few of them are illegals. Some of them only wants to get married just to get the PR. Some of them only want the girls for pleasure sake. I have Nigerian frens who are married to a muslim girl but he still goes out and find other girls.
Take your time to get to know him better. I know they like to rush things. they are very good 'sweet-talkers' so dont easily fall for that. And just be careful when you go out with them.
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18/05/2008 11:54:46 PMThe question is do you trust yourself. Will you fall for anyone ?? Are you god fearing. It is not the nationality that you need to fear, it is your own lust that you need to fear. The inability to control oneself. Our prophet says that you will reach taqwa at a high level when you love me more than yourself. Everything as long as in line with the Muslim laws, you have nothing to fear. Ask Allah for guidnace and surely He knows what is best for you. Ameen.
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19/05/2008 7:11:41 AMInitially, I thought this guy was nice as he told me he is working in IT. However, after a while, he told me that he also own the company. Somehow, I do not trust him coz' he asked me to help to pay some of his bills. I have become suspicious. Of course, I refused. Just give warning to people out there. Please be wary of such people.
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21/05/2008 12:16:04 PMI guess you should consider jannah14 suggestions. Women's instinct could be accurate so she has a point for that. Start as friends first ok, learn his habits and style. Don't rush but, then again don't be a rejector.
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21/05/2008 2:02:58 PMShouldn't I find it hard to accept if the guy begin to ask for help to pay for his stuff? It does reflect badly on his financial status. I am not so sure if this is a good thing in the long run. Moreover, I do not know him well enough to trust him. I refused. So now, it is up to him if he really likes me to stay in the friendship or he rather find someone else who is willing to pay for his expenses.
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23/05/2008 9:26:13 AMHmm...it's true for your point. Put your trust and hope that Allah (God) guide him, if he's sincere and muslim.
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2/06/2008 12:50:02 AMI struggle with alot of Muslims out there. Whenw e ask the basic question why are wedoing things for ? Is it in the name of Allah ?? If so, whatever you do, you do it in Allah's name. Give advice, help in terms of changing the person into a better person so that you can also get Allah's pleasure. If our intent is good, insya'Allah, he will change. It is a test for us as well meeting these kind of people. May we all dol well in our own tests as well. Ameen.
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4/06/2008 3:32:55 PMThank you for your reply. Recently, I have just communicated with him through online. He is still asking for help ie. money for his situation or problem. Each time, it will be from a different story. I have been very suspicious of him. I told him that I think he is a scram. He immediately reacted that I am insulting him. I gave him a few advices and explained on why I have this impression. What I feel is that it was strange that he does not feel bad for keeping asking for money. I have the feeling his mind is focused that is to get as much money from the person he is communicating with. I was disappointed. You are right it is a test for me. Anyway, I have said to him that May Allah s.w.t help him.
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Recently, I have met a Nigerian guy through MuslimFriends.com. He is keen in having a serious relationship with me after knowing for a short period of time. I have read some horror stories about Nigerian guys and their scrams. Anyone has any advices?
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