i am a single mother of 2 gals..past few months i got involve in a relationship with a single guy..
i fallen in love with him so deeply until 1 day i know that his mother won't be able able to accept as who i am and he'll let his mother determine who his life partner will be,even if he won't be able to love the other party sincerely.
at this moment i am feeing very depressed having to handle another relationship that went wrong..Help me,what can i do now..
Hi babygal ayg,
I felt my greatest sympathy for you for what you are going through. Wordly things, have always obsured and depressed us, even today. I never once think everything is 'right' in this world, at least, being aware of it makes me cautious and accept the fallibility of life and humanity around us.
I can say that life around us is both light and darkness. A blind man may admit he sees darkness in his life, but he never feels that real world is total darkness, as light is available everywhere; sun, stars, lights around us etc..Darkness is nothing but the absence of light, but never an element of itself;it exist so long light fails to touch it, but it's never that the light is non-existent. Similarly (babygal), life can be filled of depression, but never is life full of suffering and not without happiness and hope. Hope and life is by God's will, no matter how evil and saintly a person may be.
So do not lose hope on anything. He chooses what he wanted to. But bring up your daughters well and smart, so that she may not make the same mistakes as others do.
Dear babygal ayg,
I understand your situation of putting all your love, trust, and hope on a person. Only to be betrayed of it all right?
First things first, you need is to stand strong for your girls. Be strong for them, I am sure your daughters are also affected one way or another. Love your daughters now and they will love you back ten thousand folds. For they look up to you babygal, every single thing you say and do they have it imprinted subconsciously.
Another thing is to learn to love yourself, and most importantly love Allah (swt). You can never go wrong in these both areas. Do not forget your family, love them too.
Do not trust easily, people may say I LOVE YOU, but do they mean it? (For life? or For now?) Don't mention normal people like us, some politicians just say some things for the moment and they do not act on it when they are elected.
Do not hurt yourself, cause only yourself and those who really care about you will be affected.
Personally, I too ever suffered depression, cried for a whole week non stop, wanting to die, cursing my own life. Went to the graveyard at night all alone thinking of committing suicide there. But end up sitting down on a stone reading ayat Yassin, in my level best. I actually prepared my own will already.
After reading ayat Yassin, I just sat there in the dark amongst the tombstones. And reflect on my life and my purpose.
Really babygal, you will not go wrong loving yourself, your daughters, loving your family, and LOVING ALLAH (swt). These are the groups that will be hurt if you are hurt.
If you are thinking of loving a man again, (there is no wrong loving, but loving who)
He must love your daughters as much as he loves you. Accept them as he accepts you, if his family does not support this, either means he is not making effort to make his stand to his family that he understands the amount of responsibility that he will be undertaking or he's just not taking you seriously.
When I mean him taking you seriously, is that he is being shortsighted and not thinking of going long term and for life with you. And in this generation, where seldom you find people who mean what they say, and say what they mean. And their words are their bond... which is as some people say out dated concept.
Hope you stand strong babygal, not for me but for your gals~! Ok?
People can and will let you down. This is part and parcel of life. Even our loved ones can let you down so take it in your stride and let it go if this is Allah's will. Turn your energy and strength to Allah s.w.t. He will never let you down. Come join us at www.faithhub.com
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