Q. Community won't accept me a new revert

Salaam,

I am very glad you have voiced out your concern to others. I think you are not alone being rejected, as many converts themselves are rejected. I recommend reading Dr Jeffrey Lang "Losing My Religion: A call for Help, ". He is a Muslim convert and authored this book specifically on the issue of younger Muslims. You can also see his youtube video form my website : http://islamtouch.com/myIslam/...

Unfortunately, your problem is not something new. Almost everyone in this world all practically lived in a society called "survival of the fittest". In short, the more successful you are in your field of achievement, signifies how great and important you are in your society,( even if you are a con-man or a double standard person). Muslims sadly, are affected too, and since you are once in a wrong path, means you are not worth to mix with the so-called "good" people.

Our Singapore country is trying to change this mindset, despite to little effects (it's called the yellow ribbon campaign). If these people hinder you resolve in being a better and changing to a good person, you are not at all fault and blamed. Rather, I feel you should very brave and spiritually strong, whether you choose to remain with them or leave to a more greener pasture of another society.

In regards to being good, I do not think being good means all the better acceptance. My family is an quite orthodox practising family and somehow between the low-middle income. We avoid interest, pork, live simple life, no drinking, emphasize discipline and family bonding, no vulgarities, no extremes (whether in punishment or enjoyment), studying well and striving good grades etc.. Yet many of my friends, colleagues, even relatives called us "backward people" or anti-social, rustic, traditional, anti-modern just because we are not like "them" e.g. 5 Cs (Cars, Condominium, Cash etc..), fashion, high risks investments, latest trends blah blah blah. If you feel in doubt, Iook at the the life of Prophet Muhammad ,Jesus, Moses (peace upon them all) and all Allah's messengers; these are good and beautiful people loved in the history of mankind yet these individuals had the worst reception of slander after slander by their own people?

I think people need to sort out
their priorities...haha

ok it works. haha.

salem,

i wonder what is their problem. What is so great about being a MUSLIM!

Islam is sent to us, all mankind as a guide. regardless of colors and races, its for all people.

There isnt any reason for them to scrutinise u. who are they to judge u? Allah is the judge not them. Dont care about what they think, take it as allah's test for u to build ur faith.

This life is full of tests and trials by Allah. Just think you do it for Allah's sake, not doing things for them.

If they are really muslims they should know the blessing from Allah they'll received for accepting and guiding a revert.

Ya
I do agreed wat Ahxuan Said
May ALLAH guide u all the way. Follow ur heart n dnt care wat others said bout it.
Insyallah

dun stress yourself too much...like trying to make everyone happy and accept you...just try your best

dun make it a point to perfect ur life with islam so quickly...slow down to taste the sweetness of practising it for Allah. since u r alone, u need loads of strength, but dun worry for Allah never burden u.

dun worry whether pple believe in you, time will show your sincerity and they will see with their heart.

raise your hands and ask from HIM, whether you want. For me, I ask for STRENGTH specially for my heart.

Salaam,

As a addition, maybe you could try to understand and explain some Islamic pure values and teachings to a family. Most of the time, Muslims, like other followers of other faiths, tend to emphasize the cultural taboo and restirctions rather than the social unity of religion, in this case, Islam.

Being rejected and challenged is normal. Prophet Muhammad, Jesus, Moses, Yahya (or John), Abraham all faced nothing but rejection by their own people, sometimes even of flesh and blood. All for the sake of preaching Allah and the unity of people to faith. Hence, I guess I saw that parallel in every age and time, whether a person of faith or a convert.

Have a strong faith, and do not feel that everyone left you. You are not alone and sadly probably, not the last... :) Do read Jeffrey Lang's book "Struggling to surrender" to know the various issues faced by converts and new generations of Muslims regarding the identity of Islam to their country and culture, which I sadly feel, Muslim leaders failed to resolve in stressly except certain circumstances.