I know a new converted brother who is now torn between his wife and mother. Never did he ever imagine this to happen and he is asking on whom he should place his importance given that both are not asking him to go against the religion and the 2 characters have some non reconcilable differences. Any feedback will be appreciated.
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The mother, if both are asking something that is within the boundaries of islam, then the mother,
Jannah lies beneath the feet of the mother,
and we can never, never repay the mother for raising us. never.
Bahz ibn Hakim's grandfather said, "I asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your father,' he replied, 'and then the next closest relative and then the next.'"
In another hadeeth a man carried his mother around the kaba for tawaf, and the prophet SAW said he still could not repay his mother.
The mother comes before the wife.
In another hadeeth, a man lay on his death bed, and could not say the shahadah. the Prophet SAW heard of this man and said to find his mother.
upon finding the mother they had found that the mother was upset with him and would never forgive him
They said 'ok, bring wood, we going to make a fire and burn your son'
there upon she said no no, i forgive him
only then he could say the shahadah
my point is, the motehr is most important
Salaam,
Hmm...This is difficult. Both are important actually, both marriage and parents.`
I guess its a problematic thing, common especially between in-laws. Respect vs responsibility, love vs patience, gratitude vs contentment.
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