Is it a sin to break up a marriage?

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Fariz
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8/11/2007 12:27:28 AM

Hmm tricky question,

Well, is it a sin to break up a marriage? Hmm based on your post, I can make a few presumptions below.

1) I suppose that your friend had a difficult way to express her position/responsibilaty as a wife in a family, with three kids.
2) Adding to a her husband violent aggression, it makes her emotionally difficult to resolve her issue with her husband alone.
3) In-laws's disagreement with her family's issue and worsen the integrity of her family and financial status.

However, I cannot make assumptions without clear and proof evidence/statements from both sides of the party. Al-Quran is serious of making charges on anyone without clear proof and sound, and also trusted witnesses (as explained in Quran chapter 24).

Ways to resolving the issue
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1)Finding and arbiter/neutral councellor
The strongest verse is also taken from the Quran is as below;

"If ye fear a breach between them twain( meaning husband and wife), appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: For Allah hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things".(4:35)

Hence, you would, if both she and her husband agress, that you, or any appointed/hired councellor be a neutral judge to resolve the issues between both parties, if time, trust and money permits by Allah's will.
Whether the finality be reconciliation or divorse, Allah knows the best for both of them.

2) Divorse

Allah does not in any way, condemn nor promote divorse as He is the best of knowers to our hearts and lives.

" But if their intention is firm for divorce, Allah heareth and knoweth all things." (2:227)

However, consultations must be clearly seek from the proper authorities from both parties.Divorse would eventually creates complications and family issues in later lifes inevitably. The Quran iself spells out many laws and restrictions in divorse in chapter 65 (consulting those who knew sharia law on divorse will be more beneficial). It somehow becomes a stigma in our society everytime the word divorse is mentiond, hence many couples would try to avoid such solution out of embarrassment or pride . Though many would prefer reconciliation over divorse including myself, but I am forced to say that all decisions must be made fair and safe to from the POV of each sides, such as your friend is facing.

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Hope my words can be of a start to your need of advise. I am sure many will be more detail in their answer than me in in this post. Prayers and perserverence from your friend and you, by Allah's will help to guide them (2:45). Bless you(Salaam).