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15/11/2007 10:09:08 PMHi pasrah,
I truly sympathized and shared my concern with your issue. Love, obligations, commitment, financial etc... It's commplicated , hence I could forsee such difficulty by each day passing...but stay positive and strong ok :)
From my personal opinion, I feel your husband has not be able to fullfil the obligation as a husband, both emotionally and spiritually. I feel that in long term run , your family ties and social friens may be pressurizing and depressing your entire marriage and relationship, day by day.
It's best, if you both come to common terms, and hire/consult a marriage councellor. Or a neutral party/arbiter from the family ties, but must be a trusted from a both and neutral side. I do feel there may be a need to re-evaluate and discuss the huge issues/problems in your marriage together as a couple. In such times, it helps to re-kindle the trust, love and commitment you all have before.
Please do not feel let down. Try not putting all the blame on yourself or him. Something has went wrong in marriage obviously, and to solve it requires a need of self reflection, and discuss time by time with each other :) Have a strong heart insha-Allah...and do look forward in your life positively...
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16/11/2007 9:22:32 PMhi fariz,
thx 4 ur concern..actually we've been for counselling. just that my husband don't want to listen to the counsellor.
after a long thought n solat i decided to ask for divorce.
why should i stay with a men who doesn't need my love anymore.
why should i think of him when he doesn't think of me at all, n affected my job.
IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO ASK DIVORCE FROM HIM?
OR I'LL STAY WITH HIM N SUFFER?
now wat im thinking is to start on a small business by my own, but i don't know how to.
im trying hard n struggle to forget what had happened but im just a human being..i cant n really can't.
pls help..i've been mentally tortured n just can't do anything that i've plan.
how can he married 2 when his pay is not even enough to cover all the bills n other expenses.
so its better for me to stay alone..but i just can't take it...
IM REALLY NOT STRONG'!!!!!!!!
pls let me know what r d things im supposed to do..
thx.
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16/11/2007 11:34:28 PMHi pasrah,
Divorse is a tough decision to make, so by now I hope you are serious on such issue of the matter. This is important, that if you have any half hearted-feelings on this matter, do NOT assume divorse as a solution.
No, it's not a sin in Islam regarding divorse. But, Quran emphasizes in many places in Quran (2:232) (2:236) (2:237)(33:49) to settle such divorce in the most respectable manner and equitable terms, not by hatred or dispute. Many divorce couples got into a huge mess after divorce happens, so it's good that you consider these problems now to this posts. To be frank to you; divorce is a huge issue with long term complication risk, so be strong, insha-Allah. Keep your prayers and hearts open to God and opportunities, and do not let yourself down. :)
I've also noticed you have somehow avoided your family circles in this issue. Can I take it that they do not agree with your points on this issue, or do not wish to partake in your problems ? Remember to consult the councellor frm sharia on divorce terms and after divorce issue/rights. They will give a more comprehensive detail on children and inheritance rights/issues, so, PLEASE..., take deeper into the details okay, pasrah ?
I wish you the best and strength in your future ahead. Stay strong and in your life and prayers k? Keep in touch with people or social circles around you, do not take it all personal. Not everyone human is an angel, but there is always someone out there who is willing to listen or help, remeber that.. :) Bless you (Salaam)
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18/11/2007 7:52:07 AMHm..concerning the business part, I hope you are well aware of the needs and risks of opening up business. Not to be nosy, but you bring yourself up to look forward and ahead when it's time. Running away from problem, or forgetting is the easiest, but always reckless. Face the issue no matter how hard or the least you can try; it's the most painful; so most important of all.
At this time, you should be tring to recover from the emotional issues you are experiencing now and then. It may take time to recover, so maybe if counceller would help, try to communicate/seek advise with people who had faced the same issue as yours before.
Be strong... :)
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21/01/2008 5:40:02 AMBe Strong pasrah.
May Allah swt be gentle with you. HE never tests you over your limits.
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through out my 17 years of marriage my husband have an affair with many women..until he married another sporean women in other country. eventhough he get a 2nd wife he still have an affair with other women. i always forgive him, and he swear with the name of ALLAH he will leave all the women n stay with me n our child. but until 2 day he lied to me n he is still having an affair..i feel that i've been cheated by him..pls help me..for ur info my husband pray n tell all his family not to do evil thing..till everyone that sees him will respect him bcoz of his good words..but why he did this to me ...he is good to everyone but evil to me..im really2 very depressss.....pls help me....
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