Q. Raising your child in the West, need advise

I I am a mother to 2 young boys. I am a Singaporean too and my husband is an Aussie.

To me the main issue is being close to my family, it's quite hard raising my boys without my family support. We have to depend on our friends alot. I find it is quite hard to do it coz I'm a very family oriented person.

Back to the topic abt raising kids in the west, I don't think there is much difference when it come to raising our children back home. Lots of Singaporeans parents that I see nowadays are pretty westernised. I am a firm believer that good values start at home. So far,I enjoyed the time that I had so far raising my first son (Can say much abt my 2nd one coz I just gave birth to him 3 weeks ago lol!) here.

in my point of view, i think the west have the bad way. what i watched from the 'supernanny' , i think that the child are left behind, lust like in s'pore. i believe in aussie, the life there was quite calm. but also you do not want to loose an identity as a singaporean. you need to think about the costs in such like who want to pay his/her daily school fare, the fees not only in normal sch, but also in university. i can't choose your choice, but this are the factors that affect you choosing either in aussie or s'pore
another item is about manpower. if there is not much manpower, who want to help you and your children.
i fully agree with what the replyer above says. like the way in s'pore and in the west is the same, because it is modernised and civilised.
think also your future generations. do you want to be your generation a western?i'm sure you still want to exist your own culture .
i also agree with what your parents says.
i think the bestway is the old method. caning, but not severely.
it is also your income also to support your family

You'll be making a huge mistake by moving to Singapore.

Singapore as a country is worst than the west. save yourself and your future from living is such an unfair country. If you want your family to have a successful, healthy and free to practice Islam, then please don't move to Singapore. I personally will not subject myself in such a situation.

You know that this is true. just do a search (on the internet) on Islam/ Muslim in Singapore. Find out what other Singapore people and organisation feel about Muslims. below is just one of the many example. People living in this country are so ignorant and seriously clueless about their history,rights and culture. refer to this question: http://www.nasibriyanilounge.c...

I believe that there's a degree of ethnic cleansing currently going on right under their nose, and yet Muslim sg are not aware of it. :S

----> example below taken form following website

http://www.littlespeck.com/inf...

Comments

By kufar
Hello!
PAS is a racist party advocating Muslim supremacy. It must be banned just as Singapore has done to such racist parties. The best way to develop a multi-racial society is to emulate Singaporean model.
Singapore has declared 4 official languages, namely, Mandarin, English, Tamil and Bahasa Melayu.
Singapore has abolished Islam as the official religion but retained limited Syariah law for Muslims on issues of marriage, divorce and inheritance and giving civil court supreme authority to review decisions by Syariah court.
A Muslim in Singapore has freedom to renounce Islam if he so wishes, and yes, he may even eat pork while still being Muslim.

Singapore has promoted a Secular ideology called Confucianism that teaches equality of people, irrespective of race, be it Muslim or Kafir.
Singapore is a neighbour that treats us another ASEAN neighbour in a no-nonsense way. LKY refused to consent to building the Crooked Bridge (Jambatan Bengkok) as he said "Why should a Muslim country dictate to a multi-racial country?
We just do not need the bridge as we do not get any gain - only the Muslim race will gain, other races will not gain."
Singapore and Israel are MULTI-RACIAL societies giving equality for their Muslim minority with their Kafir majority. We should emulate these governments.

right. look, one piece of advise i'll give you all who are so hung up on the 'evil's' of the West.

go the 'east'... and tell me just how 'pious' people are..

i'm wondering actually whether 'the east' is an abstraction of the mind of a society that longs beyond the empty consumerism of 'the west'... and somehow believes this emptiness can be filled by 'the east'...

the grass isn't greener people. and i think your kids have a right to know that.