Unfortunately, according to secular law it is possible. However, for your confirmation, the marriage is not valid in Islam due to the witnesses and pre-conditions for the contract of between two people in marriage. Hence, if your spouse-to-be accepts your opinion, please as a Muslim inform her that the validity is against what is given in the Quran. Doing so pulls her towards unbelief, which we Muslims hope you would convey this message, if you are a man/woman of good heart and intention. Relay him/her to read the Quran for what Allah has reason to mankind in this life and for hereafter since the first man (Adam), so that we do not fall among those who are ignorant, transgressed and hypocrites.
As far as her wish ( in conversion) is concerned, that 's her decision. In Islam there is no compulsion, however the reminder, the revelation from Allah, (especially if he/she is a Muslim), is already known ( if not now and soon). As a Muslim, we all pray for her guidance from err and the protection of evil whisperer of Satan and hearts of mankind in this world.
Please send our salaam to the Muslim you loved so much. We could only pray to Allah, for He guides whom He will, and whomsoever He has made misguided, there is none to guide. We Muslims bear witness there is non to worship other Allah, and Muhammad(peace and blessings be upon him) is HIs prophet and Messenger to mankind.
Fariz, thanks, i'll tell her. dont worry :)
I realize you're quite a devoted muslim, i'd like to know more about religion.
Perhaps we can talk about it one day :)
I'm a free thinker who hates religion but want to learn about religions.
As I did mentioned in my post, she has to the right choice to made her decision... as long no one forces her to, which has an exception like in parts of Muslim history. As a Muslim, god-willing, she knew her position, conscious and identity well enough to admit and understand her actions and consequences. Peace.
According to the Islamic Laws the Muslim Women cannot marry a Non Muslim Man for being that she will forget this religion and her children may not be a Muslim.
Hence you have actually put her in a very difficult position.
If she decides to convert to another religion, there will be other social problems such as the family not accepting her and so on and on. This can be quite a mess.
What's make it more complicated is that she has children, what values are you going to pass down to them and what religion are they going carry?
Perhaps as a Free Thinker you should explore further our religion. Start reading the books and ask the right people about Islam.
My friends always say this, "Are Free Thinkers always Free? Or Are they just lost?"
I guess I need to mention something about marriage between a non-muslim and muslim~
But before I talk about this marriage issue, I want to talk about what Islam is really about~ This might change your view on marriage~
I am just speaking from experiences as a free-thinker previously, I just dont like religion as you do because of all the worldly conflicts arise because of religion~ But that was when I was soOooo busy chasing after worldly stuff (Money, comfort, relationships)~
Things change when I got out of my comfort zone~
You know, living in Singapore takes us away from the nature~ We're basically in a cement jungle where everything is man-made~ I believe in the existence of God when I was put in the environment where I have to depend on nature to survive~
No matter how strong we human are, we cannot fight against nature~ And no one creates nature except God~ Just look at how tsunami, earthquakes and thunderstorm kills thousands of people~ We can predict them but we cannot stop them from happening~
I would really love to tell you more about the process of me reverting because I truely believe in Allah(SWT) and his creation~ I reverted because of my own will~ Alhamdulliah! (Praise to be Allah!)
Now, back to your topic... The reason why marriage is not possible between muslim and non-muslim is because they have different way of life, which the muslim called the Deen~
Islam is a religion which everything is stated down for us~ Starting from before our birth to the end of our life~
Marriage is one of the main obligation in Islam we have to carry out~ Because we believe that God create us to be weak and so he gave us another half to accompany us throughout this transitory life~
MArriage works out when both has a common code of living together... Conflicts will arise when non-muslim does not believe in the deen of the muslim~ Which will put a strain on the marriage~ And soon will end up in bad ending~
If your gf is giving you idea that it is okay to stay non-muslim, then she has to realise that it's the responsibility of every muslim to invite non-muslim into the religion... This is known as Dawah~
Try asking your girlfriend about Islam and see if she knows much~ If you are serious in marrying her, then I suggest that both of you take up the duty to find out what our purpose of life is~ That's what all marriage is about, isn't it?
Don't judge a religion by its people... Judge the religion by its teachings~ =) And if you believe in it, follow the teachings, not the people~
As a revert myself, I find it more convincing to listen to stories of fellow reverts... Try knowing their stories and you will realise there's something missing in your life~ =)
These are some videos which might help~ Try watching it with an open heart and Insha'Allah, hope you will be guided~
just to share something which I observed. a friend of mine married a malay girl. the marriage was registered in ROM. He did not convert as he did not believe in the religion. Now, they are living happily together in Australia.
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