Q. Unwed Pregnant mum

it's probably the most fragile moment of her life thus far. there's 2 issues here. 1st is what she wants to do and 2nd is what she SHOULD do in OUR point of view.

Of course, we know the usual stuff: don't go for abortion, seek counselling, look for the man responsible etc. But we'd also have to look into what she wants to do with the baby. two thirds of such cases (my assumption) lead to abortion and the rest of those who go thru this would opt to take care of the child.

it is important that during these "fragile moments" she must have someone to turn to everyday, yes everyday. know what she wants to do with the baby at this moment. convincing her to keep the baby may be hard, as most cases have proven. family pressure, social circle pressure, work etc.

such circumstances are inevitable in these modern times. but there have been cases of children who have been raised successfully from single mums.

Allah SWT is all forgiving for all muslims (i'm assuming this lady is muslim). we're not free from mistakes, as each of us will learn. that is why we have to solat 5 times anyway - to remind ourselves of our Creator and to seek forgiveness.

so regardless if the man responsible will shoulder this or not, she must be constantly reminded that this is not the end of happiness. it's a path to better happiness. happiness to see the child grow up and be a strong leader Insyaallah in spite of all the criticisms expected to receive.

females are the true warriors in everyday life. starting with 9 months of pregnancy and then childbirth, and then having to ensure that the children's needs are well taken care of all the time. that's why mother's day are better celebrated than father's day.

thus this pregnancy is the start of her life as the warrior and role model for the child regardless of her past. but first, she must make the proper choice now that she's pregnant. the choice that you will have a part in convincing her. the rest, we leave it to Allah SWT. Insyaallah.

For a muslim woman it may be hard at times. There is always this evidence of her sin, but to abort is another sin.

one may think 'oh dear, the shame around my name. the people will know. i will always be reminded because of this child. its evidence'

which is true, but this shouldn't take us to the step of abortion. Great scholars have come from such cases. its tempting to abort, I know it is.
It's also tempting to rush into marriage.

Honestly, I'd have to advise keeping the child, because life is not ours to give or take. The soul is in that child and it is there in existence. Abortion is another sin.

I sadly know of many cases such as these. Its growing more common. but research shows that people who have abortions regret it later down the track. It remains with them forever and some even end up on anti depressants.

If they cannot marry then she may raise it on her own, with family support I hope.

God does not burden a soul with more than it can handle.

khair inshAllah.