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27/11/2007 9:54:17 PMSalaam,
I suggest that the person(woman) speak personally to an imam, ustaz/ustazah. This is a serious matter and is not to be taken lightly. InshaAllah, they are able to help her.
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28/11/2007 12:24:11 AMIslam do not condone Rapes.
Islamically or not...i understand it's a challenge for her to report it. I'm sure many people around her would blame her and so on, but she should report the situation. If it happens to her, it will happen to other people. A girl being rape has nothing to do with what she wears or her modesty as some might like to think.
Many rape cases happens within the family and people whom she knows. Like by her father, brother, cousin boyfriend, guy friends, husband etc..it's more common that we think. Even in Muslim family.
The reality of rape cases when press charges in court it's very difficult to proof because of the lack of evidence.
To ensure a strong case there are a few pointers a girl needs to know after she is being rape.
1. Have a good look at your rapist so that you can describe it to the police. location and time.
2. What the rapist is wearing.
3. Never go and shower straight after the incident. ( i know that is probably the first thing any girl would wanna do is to wash herself)
4. Report to the police soon after the incident. Don't wait till the next day or next month.
5. Go to the doctor and get yourself check for any DNA and evidence to show any signs of struggle and force.
6. Tell this to someone whom the girl trust so that person can support the girl in every step of the way.
With that you will have a strong case when the rapist is found and when the girl will need to go to the court. Especially if the rapist is someone you actually know, that will be harder to proof if the rape was actually a rape or was it consented. with a reporting to the police fresh as soon as it happens and not washing away any evidence on the girls' body, the police will be able to compile more evidence to proof a strong case.
So for the benefit and safety in our country, we should report rape cases and not allow criminals to linger around in our society without being caught. What happens to this woman can happen to your child , daughter, aunty, mothers. wife, sisters...etc. For the rest who are not victim of rape cases but knows someone who have been in situation like that, we should support and encourage them to report it. :)
Hope this helps.
You can also check out this link on islam online
http://www.islamonline.net/ser...
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28/11/2007 9:50:52 PMthanks sultana,
i too am aware that most rapist are close to the victims. sometimes even the husbands can rape their wives.
i know of someone who was raped more than 2 years ago. she didnt report because he was her family's close friend, and her family respected him and in fact trusted him more than her. so she didnt tell her family either. i think she initially wanted to but her family didnt actually react well.
2 years later, (now) she had already moved on. she is planning to get married but her boyfriend who knows of this inicdent, made a condition for her to make a report adn only then would he marry her. she is very troubled now. she is scared to make a report and there would not be any evidence as it was 2 years ago. she dont know what to do and there is no way she could save her relationship either. the rapist is a quite well known sportsman in Singapore, so she is scared that the report will backfire. i dont know what to advise her even...
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29/11/2007 9:20:51 PMfirst thing first, she has to be encouraged to go to the police, then to the doctor.
and i would say she has to go to a psychologist as well to be helped.
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30/11/2007 12:03:27 PMThanks for accepting my answer :)
Yea about that, she still can go to the police station and report the case, even if it happens 2 years ago. As for the doctor, it's probably too late to collect any DNA evidence.
Any report to the police is confidential. A police report has nothing to do with pressing changers, unless of course she knows who the guy who raped her. It's really her choice to press charges or not. But reporting the case is safe and easy.
like im4n0v said...if she's still effected by that incident talking to a chancellor might be a good idea. Although personally i think counsellings is a waste of time and money. There are other alternative out there to complete and be at peace with the past.
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1/12/2007 11:11:43 PMsultana wrote_
that incident talking to a chancellor might be a good idea. Although personally i think counsellings is a waste of time and money. There are other alternative out there to complete and be at peace with the past.
is a waste of time ?
i'm NOT so sure of that!
on the contrary, it will be help!
and
There are other alternative out there to complete and be at peace with the past.
sure there are, if you are a beliver, just ask HIM!
pray a lot! more than usual.
insya Allah it helps.
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if a woman get raped, and she didnt report, is it wrong? maybe she was too scared. maybe too ashamed. but is it wrong in Islam?
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