Q. How do we encourage our Singapore Muslim youths?
We have seen certain youths are misbehaving in public. We have seen certain male youths with ear studs or ear rings. We have seen certain female youths wearing obscene/impolite clothing. We have seen certain youths with tattoo over their skin. We have seen certain youths consuming alcohol beverages and even pose a photo with the haram drink. We have seen youths with unplanned pregnancies. We have seen certain youths committing crimes.
These youths we have seen, may have parents of the same religion like ours.
Of course, we have seen most youths do well in educational practices and being successful.
But what about the ones mentioned above? Should we just put them aside? Ignore them because they are just a wasteful to the society?
Some of us, think that this is all because of western media, showing bad examples to the kids and allowing them to follow bad trends. Some of us think that, parents do not bother to educate proper etiquette to their kids. Some of us may think otherwise and etc.
What do you think?
How can you help?
Why do you think your method works on these youths?
Just want to know about your opinions and do pop up any ideas. =)
hmm. this is quite a tough question i could say. :D in my opinion, there are different situations that could lead to the behaviours of youths nowadays..
but if for me, i think the most important person to handle these youths are the parents itself. they should be the one who guide their children to the right path. if they didnt teach and guide them properly, then their children could become rude and would rather follow what their friends did. this also depends on the friends they have. if their friends are good, they would become good. if not, then too bad la. as we all know, youths could easily get influenced by their friends. they want to follow whatever their friends did. but this also depends on the person itself. some could control themselves on doing all the bad things.
i think,some of them wants attention too. they like attention since no one (eg family) gives them enough attention and care.
but some might be having too much pressure from their family. maybe some parents are too strict and of course the youths would feel stress and atlast go against them.
actually we could help them if they really want to help themselves. maybe someone who knows them well (eg relatives, frens, teacher) could approach them and try to hear all their problems and try to give them advises. most importantly is the way we talk to them- the tone of our voice. if we kept on scolding and being sarcastic to them, then i bet they wont change. we should watch out the way we advise them or it would be a waste of time talking to them. :D
Assalamualaikum,
MashAllah Brother that is a very good question because the future of Islam depends on the Youth. My Brothers and sisters, I highly recommend a Lecture by Brother Nouman Ali Khan titled "Our Legacy For The Next Genreation, Doubt?" at this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v... It might gives us some perspective on why the Youths are not following their deen.
I agree with sister ms-unknown. Youths needs someone who can hear them out without being judgemental or overeact.
Parents tends to overact if they have done something wrong and this makes the Youths stay away from their Parents and confide to their friends whom may give them good or bad advice depending on what kind of friends they are.
Tha masjid can play its part by making it more attractive and for our Youths so that they can seek refuge in it.
well.youths are the pillar of the next generations.i do see such misbehaviour and muslim youths impolitely dressed.
yes,friends and media do have great influence on muslim youths.hence the reason why some of them wear impolitely ,got their ear pierced and so on.
another reason could be lack of religious support be it from family ,through attending religious class and so on.whatever it is when this youths grows and mature their thoughts will change for the better hopefully. we, as fellow muslims should give them our supports and advice.
please do not condemmened such youths for their misconduct and impolite dress that they wore.god has His reasons why they are created like that.
it is to ensure that people who are around them help them in their weakness and they help us in our weakness (*remember every human being is created with their own strength and weakness,hence we must work together to cover up or weakness by learning from others who has the strength to it and vice versa.this cycles go on and on and the world will be a better place)
Youth is a time when they are displaying things that they had learnt from at an impressionable age. It is the time when they want to display their capability and to prove to themselves what they are worth.
Those who are confident and had matured well gained from good guidance and parenting perhaps will display this capability differently. (A broken family may perhaps raise a confident kid if both parents are agreeable to work together in raising the child.)They might turn out alright or successful even, benefitting from the guidance.
Those who display otherwise perhaps experience some insecurity so that display scary - looking clothes and hairdos to intimidate others not to 'mess' with them.
Some simply want to display an expression for how they are feeling such as an aggression towards life and its pitfalls.
There are others who simply follow the trend due to the great influence of media, movies, etc...simply a sense of belonging or experimenting in finding their identity of likes and dislikes.
To talk to them: I suppose it will be different approaches to different individuals and groups.
Change and mindset is difficult to be received unless it is from someone that they know and trust...someone who understands what it is that they are going through.
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