My friend have the most cruel mother i have ever seen in my life.
But recenlly, after 30 yrs, she hav had enuff.
This is what her mother did :
1)Lock her up in the room
2)Dont allow her to meet anybody
3)When relatives ask for her, she will say her
daughter is busy
4)refused to let her study
5)Tortured her mentally, emotionally n physically by asking her to do housework till late at nite, waking her up in d morning using terrible names(cant b mentioned here), abuse her when her father failed to provide 'nafkah' to d family
6)bring her down, degrade her terribly
7)she married a foreign worker, that was her 1st man n it was her mum who chose for her
8)the mum extorted sooo much of money from that man that he abused her out of anger
9)She was never shown love by either her parents or her husband
10)but recently, her mother said that the her mother's milk was not HALAL for her, she shouldnt come n see her when she die and do not spread d 'pacai' on her head or even visit her grave.
11)the thing is d girl have sacrificed sooo much for her parents n family to d extent of nearly sacrificing herself once for a debt that her family couldnt pay. (her parents dunno)
12)she confided so much in me that i cant take it anymore
13) there is sooo much more about her mother and her evildoings that i cant mention here, she is now separated and is living alone
14) her mother is after her property even now asking her when she will die, n where d property will go after her death.
My question is, if her mother really passed away, should the girl visit or not? as her mother is really serious about it. and she mentioned it sooo many times.i have never seen her supporting her daughter in any way, infact d money used to buy her grand daughter's milk was also given to her dad for cigarettes.
so much hav happened and d girl is living alone as even relatives dunno dat she exists!
pls dont advice like, 'no matter wat happens, a mother is a mother, or ' even enemies should visit d death of a person' and even 'pls ask d girl to forgive her mother's sin'
i told my husband regarding my fren, and he said dat, if dat was his own mother, he would have killed her long ago, out of anger.
not only dat, if u saw her mother yourself, you sure cant tolerate her nasty words n behaviour.
please advise.
thank you.
Assalamualaikum,
Peace be upon you. I have read your post with interest and I apologize for the late reply.
First and foremost, physical and mental abuse can lead to criminal offences, so please as a good friend, if the statements are true, you should raise it to the police and they will appropriately handle and communicate with other organizations on such issue. As responsible Muslims, we have to make a part in helping those that are unfairly and abused from non-Muslims.
I could not make any justification since by posting alone is not a strong evidence. However, since your voice and witness to the victim is stronger, do assist her to resolve cases, if any physical abuse and harrasment presently persists. Keeping quiet is a silent approval, so if the claims are true, please assist as a sister in Islam.
Sad to read this and what your fren had to go thru. Alhamdulillah she still has someone to listen to her agony. To me, despite what the mother has done to her, how cruelty she is, deep down her actually she is sick. Her "jiwa" is sick. n making fool of your fren knowing she is weak, the mother made her as a victim to her "sickly jiwa". Should her mom passed away one day, if its me, i will go. To me, going to her funeral becos; 1. She is dead, n dun care what she has told me before. she cant possibly wake-up again n yell at me or stop me from coming rite? 2. I have to take care of my "maruah" cos if i dint attend on the day, i will create lots of speculations among the relatives. I am still alive, living in a community. I cant make pple talk behind me and making my life miserable again! But as for now, the mother is still alive, n she is no longer living with the mother nor the husband, then start looking forward and think positively in life. Take things one at a time. Always put Allah in your heart n be grateful of what Allah has given to us. To feel grateful will definitely make you feel great too.. and your "jiwa" will be calm... insya Allah. Amin.
0votes 7/11/2010 8:27:35 AM by Nickii rookielike above, i suggest make a report and apply PPO. look forward and move on.
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